Aversions to oral sex ?
There are still some countries which have archaic laws against oral sex or sex against the natural order of things. You can be fined , caned or jailed.
Some women do not enjoy oral sex or feels no benefits from it.
It could be their strong inhibitions or taboo’s in their culture or mental blocks or some sexual traumas which prevented them from enjoying it.
When a woman is made to feel that she has to perform oral sex because it is her duty to her husband/boyfriend, because he wants and enjoys it, or because she’s being controlled, she loses any real desire and therefore any chance of ever enjoying it herself.
Withholding oral sex on her or manipulating her would backfire on you.She would resent your attitude and would kill off her sexual desires for you.
Do you want to have sex with her for your own selfish desires or to pleasure and make her orgasm.
Ideally , it should work out both ways but when one partner has an aversion to oral sex, there is nothing much you can do about it but to accept it in your stride.
You should put her at ease without any expectations
or insist on oral sex. Allow her to choose when ,where and what she can do together.
It is like dancing. She may not like those fast numbers but prefer those slow one’s. You need to respect her , give her the control and encourage her efforts.
Encourage her to come out of her timidity and give her encouragement when she does the right things.
You need to teach each other about your bodies and the pleasures it brings but if she does not like it, you should not force upon her .
Go along with her wishes as this would make her feel love and appreciated and she won’t feel pressured to perform.