I am tired of being a man ,I want to be a woman again.
Do you sometimes feel like you are the man in the house ?
You make all the major decisions and pay for everything in the marriage .Your man appears to only piggy back on your back and adding to your problems.
You want him to pull his weight in the relationship but he seems to be oblivious of your feelings and discontentment’s.
Instead of being understanding and helpful , some men may even constantly criticize , complaint ,emotionally abuse and have a higher expectations from her.
The journey is long and you can get tired and you need to rest sometimes and expect him to carry you when you feel weary and weak.
You are tired of carrying all those burdens on your shoulder and want him to help lighten them.
You maybe paying for half of everything in today’s marriages and in some cases, you may even pay for everything.
After paying for so many things , you expect some gratitude from him but instead you feel lousy about his selfish behaviour and would have preferred if he showed some understandings about your needs and learned how to nurture and take care of you .
You feel that you have given a lot to the relationship but he only knows how to take but does not know how to give in return.
Blame it on their mothers who pampered them and did not train them properly.
It can be very weary carrying the whole world by yourself all the time and sometimes , you need to rest and allow him to help you but help is not forth coming.
You think of your parents time when the man is the sole provider and the woman the house minder. The gender roles were distinct in those times.
With women getting higher educations and better paying jobs, the role of women in our society has taken on a different role. They are now the breadwinner as well as the housewife.
Even though some men take on a greater role in the taking care of the child and home, a greater proportion of the household chores are still being borne by the women.
Women want equality and they want to prove that they are just as capable as the men in every fields.
In the process, they compete against men and men are confused with the new role of women in the society.
Today’s women act like men or assimilated some of his characteristics but yet want to be treated like a traditional type of women.
The modern women want independence and equality but deep down they want to be taken care off like a traditional women with the men paying for everything.
It is like having the best of both worlds. Some women reverted back and fro from the old and the new world whenever it suited them.
If she is from a lower paying job, her man would look after her but if she is from the other higher end, the man is not expected to pay for her upkeep.
The way to avoid these pitfalls is to work out the details before marriage or put a certain percentage of their incomes into a joint account for all those bills and mortgages.
I see some Christian couples do that and they have a very good relationship and money is not a problem or can cause any misunderstandings or bad feelings.
When you are in love, you just want to live together and do not want to discuss the nitty gritty stuff before hand. There could be serious troubles if you go into too much details.
If there is love, everything will be fine and you won’t mind paying for everything.
When the honeymoon is over and reality sets in ,you begin to see his faults .
He is not the golden God you worshiped and let him walked all over you but only a statue with feet of clay.