Why do so many men seem to avoid marriage?
“A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.”
That sums up the difference on how each sex view marriage.
Before a man is ready for marriage, , he would need to have a stable job, healthy , psychologically and mentally conditioned for marriage , wealthy enough to afford the wedding receptions and be ready to give up his Wild, Wild ,West ways .
In some cultures, it is the woman’s side which provide the groom with dowry’s or pay for the wedding receptions.
Money is the chief impediment to being married. Everything needs money and when you live by yourself , you will find that every single thing will have to be bought .When you were living with your parents, you need not spend a single cent . Everything you need was provided by them. How life with one’s parent is such a bliss!
Being married to a girl , means that he will have to give up part or all of of his freedom or independence , sharing his decisions and taking on an increased in the responsibilities of a spouse, ,children and home.He becomes the provider .
The traditional women and some modern day liberated women does not realize that burden as they come to expect the guy to bear that responsibility and it is his job. Some of them take it for granted.
To a working women , she can always quit her job anytime when she does not feel like working or if she was fired from her job. She has no problem with that as she can always depend on her husband to support her. To her, the job is just a temporary stop gap measure.
The men do not have this choice. They have to work till they are old or cannot work anymore.
If they are single , they do not have to worry about the family or home or kids and can just spend their life anyway they want.
When a woman marries, she is likely to focused on herself , her wants, wishes, dreams and desires. He is like her passport to a great life and assumes that he will share her dreams as well.
Today, women are working and the household expenses are lightened by her contributions. Some husbands pay for all the bills but do not give her any allowances since she is working .
Basically what she makes, she spends on herself or on the kids and only grudgingly help pay the bills when the husband is broke.
There are many obstacles in a man’s path to matrimony.If money is not a problem , there is the problem of her.
Will she be a good mother and wife and make his life worth living ?
Will she be like those high maintenance type? They worries about not being able to afford the good life for her and provide her with the luxuries of life.