Not Tonight Dear!…

Posted on November 2, 2007. Filed under: Marriage Issues | Tags: , , , |

Men gives love in exchange for sex.Women gives sex in exchange for love. Men and women are made for each other and complement each other.

Therefore, when you marry ,the two becomes one. What is his, is yours and what is yours, is his. This is stated in the Bible.

If your husband want ‘s it , you must allow him and not deny him unless you have a valid and strong  reason , like you are sick or unwell.Similarly , if you want it , your husband should not reject you. Your body  is made for the enjoyment of the other. 

The problem in a marriage is the difference between men and women’s outlook  on sex.To a man , sex is everything and his sex drive is driven by his male hormones ,testosterone’s. He cannot control those raging testosterone’s. This is what made him either  an old bone shaker or a zippy sports car.

For a woman , sex is not that important but love is more important to her.If she feels she is loved, then sex is a natural progression for her . She wants to please him and make him  feel happy in return.

If she does not received his love or perceived that he is treating her only as a sex object, she would naturally not enjoy it and find no pleasure in having sex with him.

Women use sex as a control over the men . Sex is used as a reward or a punishment for him. With today’s women working and having careers and taking care of kids, it can be a disincentive for women to have sex as she would be too tired for it.

From her own perspective , she has an excuse not to have sex  because of her heavy workload and all those household chores and baby care givings.

Modern living have taken it’s toll on their sex life’s. She feels she is just too tired and  exhausted and not in the mood for love. 

She maybe exhausted but the main underlying reason is because she expected much from her husband and he failed to deliver or pull his weight around the house or other areas of their marriage life and this is the payback time.

Like a naughty boy whose favourite toy is taken away and locked up in the cupboard. A tit for tat situation.

If a women constantly have headaches, real or imagined  and ‘not tonight dear syndrome’, it can kill off the men’s sexual drive and forced him to look outside the  marriage . Either having affairs or visiting  those hookers.

Women need to compromise because after they are married, their  body does not belong to them 100%.  They should at least meet their husband halfway and try to please their partners.  It should not be treated like trick or a treat.

If the shoe were to be on the other side. the women having a higher sex drive and the men not willing, how would she feel?Before you do anything, look into the mirror  and see  how you would feel if you are the victim. Do not do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you.

The next time your wife says she has got a headache , tell her that sex will cure her headache….dont believe? Lets do it !  LOL!

Related Contents

http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/article2786172.ece

Make a Comment

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

3 Responses to “Not Tonight Dear!…”

RSS Feed for Laura1318’s Weblog Comments RSS Feed

[…] care of kids, it can be a disincentive for women to have sex as she would be too tired for it.https://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/11/02/not-tonight-dear/Punishment vs reward–which is better??? – Yahoo! Answersi have to do a psychology project and its […]

[…] laura1318 added an interesting post today on Not Tonight Dear!â¦.Here’s a small reading:Women need to compromise because after they are married, their body does not belong to them 100%. They should at least meet their husband halfway and try to please their partners. It should not be treated like trick or a treat. … […]

very interesting thought.
tired woman after housework doesnt want sex
why tired man after work still want sex? are we really that pig?!


Where's The Comment Form?

Liked it here?
Why not try sites on the blogroll...

%d bloggers like this: