What Would An Alpha Female Choose? For Love Or Money?

Posted on December 25, 2007. Filed under: Man-Women Issues | Tags: , , , , , |

What Would An Alpha Female Choose? For Love Or Money?

Hi Hot Alpha Female,

Thank you for your heartrending, wonderful and fantastic reply. It is not everyday you can find someone who can gives her frank and sensible opinions and dissect the issues in the matter of fact way. There are other Alpha females who are more brilliant and intelligent than us out there in the wide world.

In any sincere and loving relationship, it is all about love, the caring , sharing , honesty and openness .It is not about power,money , control or sex. When you love that somebody, you would want to please that person and make him happy. Love is the elixir of life. Love is like pouring water into his cup and when it is full, he will pour it back to your cup. It is this back and forth which makes marriage life more interesting than single life.

You give love to receive love. To love and to be loved is what makes you happy and your world a beautiful place. You can find everything beautiful when you love that somebody and being loved in return. Nothing matters when you have that kind of love.

You love a man for what he is and what he can do for you. He can make you happy and feel like you are on top of the world. It is not his money which makes you happy though it will contribute to some of the happiness in you. It is his words and actions which will make you feel wanted and appreciated. A super Alpha male may treat you like a trophy but a real man would give meanings in your life, fulfillment, contentment’s and happiness.

You may live in a shed without anything and you still find that you are happy, joyful and contented. If you don’t have love, the entire world at your feet would not satisfy your inner man or your soul.

I have seen couples who are more loving when they are struggling and when they became rich, their relationship suffered and ended up in divorce.

Imagine, you were cast away into a blue lagoon and there is only one man there…You would love him for what he is a MAN. Today, the modern women have forgotten the real meaning of love or they have refined it to such a high degree that the man they seek can only be found in the virtual world or a make believe world.

No women like being told they are wrong because generally most women are vain .They think they can find such a man and goes off on their long journey to look for that elusive man. She may have found him but she is too late. Even if she found one, keeping him forever may not be that simple.

It may not solely be her problem but society and social norms which dictate her to find someone who is equal to her new found status. To be seen with a beta male may not be favourable in the eyes of the society.

What society expects from a rich and successful female may not be true for her. What is important is, she finds her true love. To hell with what others think! Society does not know what you want in your heart and others can think or judge whatever they want but it is your own personal life. The world does not owe you anything and you don’t have to follow what people expects from you.

Those who wait for the best men will never find it . Even when they have found the best man, they still think there is someone who is better. In the end , they settled down for the second best.

[Despite this argument that Alpha Males want a Beta Female. I know a lot of guys who would like a chick who is their equal. Who can challenge their ideas, who can stand up for themselves and doesn’t just do what she is told. These men know and have dated beta females and they want something more. I know that they are out there!!]

Women are ambivalent and that is a fact but men are too. When they have a Beta wife, they want an Alpha wife and vice versa. You cannot believe what you see and hear .What you see and hear is not what get. LOL!. Before marriage, men may say they want an equal partner but after they have lived with them for a while, they would prefer a Beta wife. They would gladly exchange their wife but they cannot do it in real life. This is human nature. They may prefer those smart women but when you lived together, that is another completely different story . LOL!

[Just like when my boss curiously asked me if I “go for the rich ones” my response was … not at all, it’s the potential that is more important. N regardless to what anyone may say that is the god honest truth. Because at the end of the day .. When we are all dead and buried … people don’t remember you for how much money you had or how many cars, houses countries you’re owned. But they remember what kind of person that you were, how you contributed to the world and the impact you had on the people around you.]

That is true and I agree with you all the way. Most people when they are alive , are not aware of this fact.

Would you marry for love or money?

 

http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/08/16/for-love-or-for-money/

To say you would rather marry for love than money may sound altruistic and magnanimous but in reality many women presented with a choice would rather marry the man who is more loaded and who can give her more of his time. LOL!

It is not only about money but time too. If the poorer man can give much of his time to her, he can win her heart over the richman . But if everything remains the same, then the richer man will win hands down.

Materialism and security is most paramount in a girl’s mind. Only those who don’t have rich suitors are not presented with this dilemma. The very young are smitten with teenage love and promises and they do not understand what living in the real world entails.

If you marry for money or materialism, your marriage will not last. You will be treated like a trophy wife and when he gets tired of you, he will hang you up on the wall like all those animal trophies from his Safari days. He will be looking for the next prey and he will not even look at you again.

His money may not last and could be gone and so will your love. LOL! Money cannot keep you warm but love can keep you going.

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8 Responses to “What Would An Alpha Female Choose? For Love Or Money?”

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Hi Laura!
Hope you had a wonderful Christmas! Took me a little while to get into it, but ended up having a great day. So I’ve done my over socializing, over eating, over shopping and I’m back and ready to delve into some great discussion.

[Love is like pouring water into his cup and when it is full, he will pour it back to your cup.]

Girl this reminds me of something that John Gray talks about in “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” hahah. Ive heard so much about the book, but about a month ago was when I actually picked it up to read it. I think that relationships flourish when two whole people come together and share a group of commonalities together that brings them together and keeps the relationship growing. Too many times I see two people who think that they are only half a person without the other. Its like two starving people in a room trying to steal each others food! It just doesn’t work. N it leads to dependant relationships which I think can be quite unhealthy in the long term. N while obviously when u are in a long term relationship there will be times where you are more dependant on your partner for support and what not, because you have an open and loving relationship, but the whole idea of having to rely wholly on another person .. is something that Alpha Females definitely don’t appreciate and would not want to do. Coz we are all about independence in every way right? One of our greatest assets and greatest downfalls I think.

[I have seen couples who are more loving when they are struggling and when they became rich, their relationship suffered and ended up in divorce.]

The reason why I believe this to be true is not so much about the money exactly. I think that this happens because of some of the fundamental building blocks of relationships. One key factor that you need in a relationship is growth and in some sense a common goal. So I’m thinking when these two people were struggling, they had the common goal of making more money so that they could live better lives or what not. N while at times it could have caused more tension, ultimately it would have brought them closer together as they learned to support one another through the hard times. Now when they reach all the money and riches .. what common goal did they have in place together? They had everything they want, they could go do whatever they want. The husband begins to spend more time playing golf or whatever and the wife spends time with her girlfriends. Something that they couldn’t’t do before because they were so focused on reaching that common goal before. They grow apart, start to have more arguments … and wa-la we have a divorce on our hands. Now I’m not saying that its that simple and that is the only factor as to why a relationship may disintegrate, but I’m saying that its one of the major factors. The truth of the matter is, if a relationship isn’t growing then its dying. That applies to anything in life.

[What society expects from a rich and successful female may not be true for her. What is important is, she finds her true love. To hell with what others think! Society does not know what you want in your heart and others can think or judge whatever they want but it is your own personal life. The world does not owe you anything and you don’t have to follow what people expects from you.]

I totally 110% agree with this statement. I mean of course everyone wants to be accepted by society and blah blah but I think at the end of the day when you have high self esteem that what other people think of you doesn’t really matter at all. That is one thing that I realised over the weekend when I was talking to someone about my new job. It’s a great opportunity, a place where I can really learn and expand the area in which will ultimately become part of my wealth plan. However the response that I got from this person, was a kinda un-enthused “Yeh find something else” response. N I just thought to myself, who am I go through life by living for other peoples expectations? Are u serious? I mean how absurd does that sound, yet 99% of the population this is their primary aim. N in that moment I thought to myself or rather had to remind myself, that no – one elses opinion matters except your own. At the end of the day, when you look back on your life, YOU are the one that knows what you have accomplished and how much that has meant to YOU. The most important this is that YOU are proud of what you have achieved and the person that you are. Because no-one can take that away from you. Its yours and yours only. It is something that you have absolute control over. I love it how you say “ the world does not owe you anything and you don’t have to follow what people expects from you” *squeals* that’s such a hot statement!!!

[If you marry for money or materialism, your marriage will not last. You will be treated like a trophy wife and when he gets tired of you, he will hang you up on the wall like all those animal trophies from his Safari days. He will be looking for the next prey and he will not even look at you again.]

You know I have heard of so many stories of people going after the money. I have so many problems with this, its not funny. Firstly I don’t see the point. Why do u have to go after someones money, when u can make your own? Secondly why would you want to be in a relationship where one person has all the power. Say u marry someone with all the money and u don’t really have much at all. You are completely dependant on him. He in every sense, accommodates your needs and he in every sense can take that all away in a flash. Thirdly, guys usually want someone who is their equal, who they respect and who they can have a growing nurturing and wonderful relationship with. Otherwise just like you said Laura they get bored and move on! Life is all about challenge and it absolutely is about the journey as well. There is no point in life where u have it all, because as humans we always need to grow, there always needs to be the next level. N if u are in a relationship where u cant bring that next level? Well I don’t care how much money you have, how great your relationship is, it wont last.

So u know my answer to the question if for love or money. Its love every single time. Because money, well anyone can earn money. But being able to find someone who respects you for who you are, is willing to grow, share and support your own dreams and goals, who can grow old together with and lives fulfilling and whole lives. Well I’m sorry but money just cant buy that!!!

Hot Alpha Female =)

N remember Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for. – Addison

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Humm, I like the blog but you can also have a chance to monetize it and get some blog automatic content that will earn you some extra bucks a month while you sleep. Just A Tip !

Anyway Happy Christmas to you and your subscribers ;)

Laura1318: Thanks for your tip and Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you !

I definitely agree. My boyfriend lovingly (and proudly) refers to me as his feminazi, mainly due to my alpha female independence. I believe that, like you, women who are strong and intelligent understand the true value of love. Where nothing else but their love is all they need and the glitter that comes with money just laminates the value of the man.

Laura1318;Thanks for your input. They are smart when it comes to money but in love they failed because they used the same criteria to apply to the man which is an intangible asset. You cannot place a monetary value on a man.

ironically, by definition, alpha women meant a certain level of financial capacity, so the question is not about choosing between LOVE and MONEY, is suppose to be the choice between WANT LOVE or DONT WANT LOVE.

Laura1318: They want love and money not just love alone. Want the cake and eat it as well.

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