Will You Marry An Alpha Female ?
Let’s imagine a hypothetical situation where an Alpha female is in the marriage market looking for an Alpha male or if not available she would not mind a Beta male.
Will you as an Alpha male or Beta male accept and marry her if all the conditions are right?
Alpha females are those who are successful and rich and make more money than the men.
Before you want to commit, you would like to know what you will be getting into .I cannot be specific with examples but will only speak in general terms. Generally but with exceptions Alpha women are not easy to live with as their expectations of the men are very high.
Even a plain Jane has very high expectations from their men and this is what is causing all those divorces and breakdowns. When we marry, we should not expect too much from each other. The women should not expect the man to be her passport to riches .
In the traditional form of marriage, the men are looked upon as the provider and the women the homemaker. With women’s emancipation and women working, it has created a situation where the woman earns more than the men. The woman now becomes the main provider in a role reversal. This success is causing much friction between the couples.
The financial imbalance is making the women reappraising their roles in the marriage. With her making more money and undertaking more household expenditures, it can breed resentment in her.
She may feel that he is unambitious , lazy or free loaders and not pulling his weight in the marriage. She may resent him spending her hard earned money on something which she may not approve like buying those expensive man toys.
Further more, she feels she is still doing most of the household chores and child minding. She can also feel that he is not doing enough to help her in the housework and baby care giving even though he has given a lot. A lot is still not enough.
There are different social and psychological problems when their roles are reversed. We have been brought up with the gender expectations. When we find that the other side is not fulfilling to our expectations, , our respect and love will fly out the window.
Higher-earning women may struggle to respect their lower paid men .This is due to our social up bringing. In a Christian family, they may overcome this barrier as they have a different concept. They have love and God and do view money in the proper perspective. Money to be spend mutually and not about who is earning more.
In this present world, it is still about status, successful women would definitely feel much better if she can introduce her Alpha man than a beta man. When a successful woman marries a beta man, she may feel the shame or stigma that she married down. She may subconsciously feel that people will have less respect for her.
Alpha women want to be in charge of their lives and careers but they have been conditioned from small that they can look up to the men who will take care of them. When that is not happening, their sense of feminity is affected. They want the cake and eat it as well.
Alpha women often find themselves taking over everything, resulting in them feeling exhausted and irritated. They want everything to be done by their methods. They become very fastidious and a perfectionist.
She becomes the dominant partner and controls him like a kept man. He cannot go out with friends as she will be controlling his expenses .It is very pathetic when the woman controls his money very tightly. He is being belittled and their sex life will be similarly affected. She withholds sex from him as a punishment.
I have seen a case where the wife controlled him and only put $30.00 in his wallet and then when he came back , he had to account for where the money went. There were also curfew hours, he had to be back by 10.30 pm everyday or suffer the consequences. In the end, they were divorced after 30 years of marriage.
When a woman becomes successful, her orientation changes, she cannot see his gentleness and kindness or his other good qualities She focuses on his ambitions, his zeal, his lack of drive to succeed and she feels let down.
Those factors are more important to her .It is more about making money and more money .She uses this criteria to assessed him. When he cannot find in him, she goes to search for a richer and more powerful man and have affairs.
Finally, we come to the conclusion. Do you prefer the traditional way or the modern way?
Will you marry an Alpha female or a beta female?
The traditional way might be best for happiness and marital harmony.
If you are an Alpha female, you lose out to the Beta female unless you are willing to lower down your standards or acquired the Miranda complex and give him back some of the controls. Not to let him know how much you make and to let him think that he is the provider .After the marriage, he will have to accept the truth .If you let him know before marriage, he will be intimidated and disappear from your life..LOL!
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