Jealous Husbands ,Insecure Husbands & Miserable Wives
We all experience jealousies in our life. We know it is not a nice and wonderful feeling. For it can consume our love with pain, anger, rage, sadness, envy, fear, grief and humiliation. We then inflict the pain on our beloved and our relationship suffers.
When jealousy takes over, we are no more our true self. We become more aggressive, sometimes bothering on violence, resentment at our partners and constantly seeking reassurances.
It gnaws our insides and it hurts. You only have yourself to blame for not trusting your spouse. You brought it upon your own self.
We need to keep that green eye monster in chains and not allowed it to take over the driver’s seat. It is not fun to be jealous and neither is it enjoyable from the other end. It is see no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil.
Sometimes, you pretend not to know and allow her some freedom to enjoy herself.If you want to judge her, first judge yourself and see if you can live under the same laws.It is like , if you want to cut her , cut yourself first and see if it is painful or not.
In every marriage, there must be love and trust. If there is love but no trust, then jealousy will rear its ugly head. Previously you only hear of jealous wives but today jealous husbands are the norm.
Women are now in the work force and have no time to be jealous while the men are unable to accept the fact that women are no more confined in the kitchen and are exposed to the many temptations in the work place. Women basked in the limelight and are enjoying the freedom and attention it brings working outside the home.
The men have become insecure and apprehensive that their wives may succumb to those temptations. He feels that there are many wolves in the work place .If he is a wolf, he will think other men are wolf too.
Having a very jealous husband is tough .and will make your life crazy and upside down .Your life can be very miserable because he will show his mistrust and will question your every move and why you are late. His suspicions can affect your nerves, sanity and health.
When a person is jealous, he does not think with a rational mind. He becomes very selfish and only wants his wife to satisfy to his whims and fancies disregarding her wishes. It is not true love but possessive love. He wants to possess her and control her. When a man is very jealous, he becomes repulsive and unattractive. No one likes a jealous spouse.
“Jealousy is the largest factor in breaking up marriages. Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them.” — L. Ron Hubbard
If you are jealous, you need to communicate. You need to stop assuming the worst and ask questions. If you want to check on your wife, you should not do it openly but do it surreptitiously without her knowledge.
Look out for those signs of infidelity and when you have the proof, only confront her. Otherwise, just keep those suspicions to yourself. You need to learn to trust your wife.
Occasional jealousy is natural but you need to recognize the dangers , if it becomes intense and irrational it can very destructive.