Not Tonight Dear!…
Men gives love in exchange for sex.Women gives sex in exchange for love. Men and women are made for each other and complement each other.
Therefore, when you marry ,the two becomes one. What is his, is yours and what is yours, is his. This is stated in the Bible.
If your husband want ‘s it , you must allow him and not deny him unless you have a valid and strong reason , like you are sick or unwell.Similarly , if you want it , your husband should not reject you. Your body is made for the enjoyment of the other.
The problem in a marriage is the difference between men and women’s outlook on sex.To a man , sex is everything and his sex drive is driven by his male hormones ,testosterone’s. He cannot control those raging testosterone’s. This is what made him either an old bone shaker or a zippy sports car.
For a woman , sex is not that important but love is more important to her.If she feels she is loved, then sex is a natural progression for her . She wants to please him and make him feel happy in return.
If she does not received his love or perceived that he is treating her only as a sex object, she would naturally not enjoy it and find no pleasure in having sex with him.
Women use sex as a control over the men . Sex is used as a reward or a punishment for him. With today’s women working and having careers and taking care of kids, it can be a disincentive for women to have sex as she would be too tired for it.
From her own perspective , she has an excuse not to have sex because of her heavy workload and all those household chores and baby care givings.
Modern living have taken it’s toll on their sex life’s. She feels she is just too tired and exhausted and not in the mood for love.
She maybe exhausted but the main underlying reason is because she expected much from her husband and he failed to deliver or pull his weight around the house or other areas of their marriage life and this is the payback time.
Like a naughty boy whose favourite toy is taken away and locked up in the cupboard. A tit for tat situation.
If a women constantly have headaches, real or imagined and ‘not tonight dear syndrome’, it can kill off the men’s sexual drive and forced him to look outside the marriage . Either having affairs or visiting those hookers.
Women need to compromise because after they are married, their body does not belong to them 100%. They should at least meet their husband halfway and try to please their partners. It should not be treated like trick or a treat.
If the shoe were to be on the other side. the women having a higher sex drive and the men not willing, how would she feel?Before you do anything, look into the mirror and see how you would feel if you are the victim. Do not do unto others what you don’t want others to do unto you.
The next time your wife says she has got a headache , tell her that sex will cure her headache….dont believe? Lets do it ! LOL!
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www.cellulitediary.info » Not Tonight Dear!…
November 3, 2007
very interesting thought.
tired woman after housework doesnt want sex
why tired man after work still want sex? are we really that pig?!
Aeroplane1234
November 3, 2007